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5 Things I Have Learnt From Blogging

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I’ve been looking forward to making a post about why blogging is really helpful for me. Many people don’t take me seriously when I share with them that I have my own blog and that I like being able to write my thoughts in it.

And so, I wanted to say what I felt about it.

I’ve learned so much in writing. This is where I get to be who I am and be around those people who share the same sentiments with me. I learned from you guys too.

So, I thought, why not make a post about the things that I’ve learned throughout the months of my blogging career. I landed this post idea with Pooja, of, and we gave it a shot as our second collaboration together. You can find our first one below:

In this post, you’ll read about every 5 things that Pooja and I learned throughout our blogging journey, respectively, and I hope that you share with us what you’ve learned from your writing journey too. 🙂

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You Can Find Friends Everywhere

With blogging, you are not limited to people in just your city/ One of the best parts about blogging is that you get to connect with people all over the world, and it doesn’t limit you from connecting with people from just one area.

What that helped me learn was that no matter where you go, you will always find someone you can connect and engage with. You just need to be open and step out of your comfort zone a little bit.

What Doesn’t Kill You Makes You Stronger

Blogging is a lot more difficult than people think it is. People always assume that things that people do on the Internet are for some reason easier than things that are done in real life, but that is really not true.

Firstly, just getting the hang of blogging and how it works takes a lot of effort for anyone who isn’t really tech-savvy, and finding something to write about every day/week/month can be very difficult as well.

Growing your audience is another difficulty that you face especially at the beginning. And just like with everything on the Internet, you of course are going to run into some hater as well.

But what blogging taught me that really works as a lesson about blogging and life too, is that what doesn’t kill us makes us stronger. Working hard to learn about blogging and to come up with things to write about helps you grow, better your writing, sharpen your skills, and more.

And receiving hate makes you realize just how unimportant other people’s opinions are. It teaches you to keep doing you without caring about pleasing others. 

Numbers Don’t Matter

Another thing that blogging and spending years growing my blog has taught me is that numbers really don’t matter as much as people often seem to think they do.

If you want to become an influencer/make money blogging, then yes, numbers do matter to an extent. However, for me personally, I’ve realized that as honored as I am to have the followers I do have, what I cherish most are the comments and interactions I have with other bloggers.

You Know Nothing

This is a lesson I learned from going through all of your amazing blogs over the last few years. Much like Jon Snow, I really know nothing.

After going through other blogs, I have learnt so many things about so many topics. I have learnt about everything from music to history to astronomy to sociology to lessons about life.

When I say “about everything,” I mean everything. It was an awesome wake-up call for the little teenage know-it-all I used to be. And I love that I was able to learn so much more than I ever imagined possible.

Life Is A Two Way Street

If there is one thing I really picked up on with blogging, it’s that life is a two-way street. You get back what you put out there.

No one is going to care about your existence and be there for you if you don’t care about them. Most things are a two-way street.

If you want something from someone, you need to be out there getting something for them too.

It Isn’t Always Rainbows and Butterflies

Remember the time when you were so excited to hit that keyboard with all your thoughts? Yeah, I miss that too. And don’t get me wrong, I am ALWAYS excited–as a very clingy and happy anxious person— to connect with my blogger friends, with Pooja, and read other blogs that I like, and hit those keys too.

But sometimes, it just doesn’t work. Whether you’re feeling down, having writer’s block, sometimes it takes quite an effort to continue blogging. And I really admire those people who managed to stay on this platform for so many years. This isn’t always rainbows and butterflies, and you know what? That’s okay.

Blogging isn’t just writing something that comes out of your mind naturally anyway. Sometimes, you need to get inspired. You need to stay motivated.

And for other people, that’s quite hard to maintain. People get tired, get busy. But if a few years from now, you (you who’s reading this) and I are still here teaching each other with the things we write about, I’d say we both did well and we deserve it.

Other People May Not Support You

Who here has very supportive family and friends of you and your blog? That’s great! You’re lucky that you have those people who understand your passion, but an unpopular opinion about blogging is that people tend to think that blogging isn’t anything serious.

Sometimes your friends and families won’t support you because they think that what you’re doing is just a hobby, something to kill your time.

I have some people who do that too. But heck, do they stop us from writing? If they think that what we’re doing is just tattletale, then they’re missing their chance to learn something from us.

You have to remember this, whatever you write about, I’m sure there’s always something that people learn from it. So keep writing!

Our Words Are Powerful

I’ve read so many blogs on WordPress since I started blogging, and every day I still get astounded by how people write, and what they write about. It’s true, blogging helps you express your thoughts as you’ve never told anyone else before.

Here, we see how people really think and share their thoughts with their readers. I’m not much of a talkative person, just when I’m around friends, but even my friends haven’t really known how my thoughts go around.

This is what we all contribute to this community. We each have power over our words and we share them with others.

No One Really Reads Content But Blogging Taught Me To Do So

I remember talking to my sister asking why she doesn’t even click on my blog to read some of my posts and she says, “I’m not much of a reader”. And I totally get it.

Some people love to read, and others don’t. I understand that nowadays, people really don’t read much content. They browse through Facebook for pretty pictures, for memes, but when they see some long posts, they scroll right away.

And yes, it’s because sometimes, well, it’s just too long! But blogging made me realize that an effort to take time reading gives you something worth knowing.

Blogging didn’t just teach me to improve my writing. It also taught me to read and acknowledge what other people have to say. You have seen maybe dozens of posts about mental health, and how to manage it, but when you see a post about it again, you click it anyway!

Because you know that there might be something you still haven’t known about mental health. And you look forward to learning from it.

If You Love What You’re Doing It Makes You Happy

This is probably the most valuable lesson that I got from blogging. It’s true that if you really love what you’re doing, you wouldn’t be stressed about it. You wouldn’t wake up and think, “Aww, man! I’m going to blog again!” Nope. Honestly,  I love what I’m doing.

I even took around courses just so I can share a lot about what I write about. Would you believe that I was all excited about it too? I can’t even go to school without saying, “Aww, man. It’s Monday again!” Half kidding, I love school too, but do you get what I’m saying?

If you love what you’re doing, no one can stop you from doing it. This is what passion feels like. Even if you get tired, you take a break, you will just end up missing it.

And when you come back, it feels good. Blogging makes me feel good. This is just one of the few things I can safely say I’m really passionate about. And I hope you feel the same way too.

Thank you so much for reading, this topic is quite personal for me and very important for us, Pooja and I, and we appreciate you taking the time aside.

I want to thank Pooja, she has been a very understanding friend! Make sure to follow her blog here!

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Let us know in the comments what you’ve learned from blogging and how it has helped you in your life! Engage with us! 🙂

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  • Olivia

    I loved this collaboration post!
    I think the points you mentioned are so true. One thing I have learnt is for sure about the number watching. Its not about numbers, and it took me a while to realise this. I think as-well I have learnt that its okay to take time off. For a while I was posting every single day, and its so much work when you do that. I finally found my routine and thats what helps to keep me on track and focused!

    • Elle

      I did try to post every single day too and it’s exhausting! It’s good that you already found your routine, I agree, it’s so crucial. Thanks so much I’m glad you loved this post. <3 :) xo

  • nianni

    These are really good things to have learnt from blogging and I’ve learnt some things from it too and it has made me know more about blogging, writing and everything else related and connecting with people.

  • The busy shelf

    Loved this article! I agree with everything you wrote here… mostly with ” life is a two-way street” because this one encompasses both your activity and numbers ( can’t expect an engaged community if you don’t engage with anyone), kindness and support, effort and results.

    • Elle

      Yeess totally agree with you! Supporting others will come right back at you. Whether in blogging and in life, it’s very relevant. Thanks for sharing! 😌💕

  • booksforall93

    These are really good points, especially numbers don’t matter and knowing that there is always something new to learn. I’ve learnt to better my writing and especially my descriptions!

    • Elle

      Haha! I got better in writing too, and yes, I live by the words, “you can always learn from something” 😌💕 thank you for sharing and for dropping by. I appreciate you. 💕

  • Natasha

    Love this! Blogging makes me so much happy and I know that most people like to watch videos on YouTube all on Instagram but I’m going to continue blogging because it’s fun

    • Elle

      I have avoided instagram, haha! I stuck on WordPress because this is where I get to write about the staff that I want, and connect with people. This is why I love blogging :> <3 Thanks for sharing, continue blogging! I love your blog. :) xo

  • Dennis Marechal

    Loved reading your post! I’ve only recently started with blogging, but I’ve already noticed that my writing has improved. This is not only valuable with blogging, but also at school, business, and almost everywhere!

    • Elle

      Oh, yes, I love doing essays now on my online classes because writing/blogging made me confident and improved my writing. It’s definitely valuable in a lot of situations. Thanks for sharing, Dennis! <3 :>

    • Elle

      Yes, it is. However, personally, I don’t really mind the “slow” part. I know it’s discouraging but I’m just gonna share what I often do when I feel discouraged. I tell myself that whenever I didn’t get a task done, I still have the rest of the years to do it, learn it, or improve it. I always feel stressed when I pressure myself, I should know about this, I should know about that, but learning is a process and we’ll all go a long way. Keep doing you, you are amazing. Progress is still progress, big or small. :> xo

  • markstraveljournal

    Absolutely bang on. I just had a reminder the other day that I’ve actually been blogging for 9 years! Wow. It’s an ongoing learning experience. And I agree with every thing you’ve said. It makes you a better writer over time. And it requires persistence and consistence. I enjoy engaging with other bloggers among other things. Overall, it has to be fun and enjoyable. So far, so good. Thanks for sharing,

    • Elle

      Wow, congratulations, you’ve been blogging for so long! <3 I aspire to become like you! :) Oh, I love connecting with other bloggers too. I'm glad you are doing good. Keep it up, Mark! xo

  • Joana

    Same, with everything you just said 😄

    I found out that I somehow enjoy reading blogs more than reading actual books. 😄 I learn stuff from other bloggers and even come up with ideas to write about because of them. The community here is much better that I spend more time in here than my social media accounts. 😄

    • Elle

      Exactlyyy! I don’t even go on instagram anymore haha. I’m glad you feel the same way too, Joana! Thanks for being here, I appreciate you. :> <3

  • thewheelchairteen

    I really loved this post. I guess what I learned from blogging is to be honest, because even if I admit to struggling or not always being perfect, my readers will be considerate and help to pick me up if I’ve fallen. I’m so happy that I don’t always have to put a brave face on. It’s nice to hear that you don’t let the haters get to you. You totally shouldn’t! And it is a big deal, no matter what others in your life say. The support from your community should show that. As a Lifesfinewhine subscriber, I’m happy to see that you two are close. Keep spreading the wisdom and love <3

    • Elle

      Oh, I’m so proud of you, babe! 💕 yes, we are a community and we help each other through writing and sharing what we know. I’m happy that you found something genuine from blogging, and from the people around you.

      Haha, I’m pretty sure Pooja would love this message. Thank you so so much! Let’s keep spreading wisdom and love 😊🌻

  • Anthony Gaenzle

    I love the note about “You know nothing.” It’s so true. You can’t go into blogging thinking you know what will and won’t work. It’s different for everyone, and there are sooooo many tools and resources that can either benefit you significantly or totally waste your time. Nice write up here!

  • Paul

    Another great post! No kidding on the fact that friends and family won’t support you. Some of those closest to me wave off everything I write as “Paul’s little musings” or his “little hobby.” I laugh it off, but, damn, that stings. It’s much more than that to me.

    Also, great point about reading…actually reading…what people put out there. That’s been the fun part for me, searching for and sometimes finding those hidden gems out there. You know, those under-the-radar people who are quietly writing great content with unique perspectives. I love the hunt for writing that stands out. When I find someone like that, I feel like I’m in on a secret that no one knows about…yet. Anyway, keep up the great work! Paul

    • Elle

      Hey, Paul! I’m so glad you’re here again. 😄 Thanks so much for your thoughts! I know it sucks my sister used to tell me things like that too. And yes it’s definitely much more than that. 🥺

      Yeah, I take pleasure in reading good contents from various writers too, and I get that 😂 and it’s amazing, I can easily admire them and make it a secret haha

      Awee thanks so much, Paul, I appreciate you. 💕

  • Jenny in Neverland

    All great things to have learned from blogging for sure! I agree, if you want to make money, numbers definitely matter. But if you don’t, then engaging with your readers and building up those connections is the most important thing! I’ve been blogging 7+ years and I’m always learning something new! xxx

  • Jaya Avendel

    I too have learned that I can find friends anywhere, and that online relationships are as cherished as life ones, especially since they can lead to so much connection.

    Love what you say about our words being powerful! I used to think my lonesome self could not say anything anyone else could learn from, but sharing my writing proved me wrong. 🙂

    Blogging taught me that I have to experiment to find what works for me and, that no matter what anyone else says, keep going!

    • Elle

      Oh, I love this comment. So much love. <3 You write incredibly, Jaya. And I'm glad you continued to write even if you felt that way before, Now, you make people feel something with what you write and I think that's amazing and meaningful. I totally agree, just keep going! :) xo

  • Carrie

    I’m new to blogging and already finding these things to be true. I also feel like I am more myself than I have ever been. Writing has allowed that for me. Thank you for this encouraging post.

  • Beaton

    I have been blogging long enough to appreciate that blogging means different things to different people… your can be whatever you believe it to be a review catalogue, an opinion place, a guide, a tutorial, an awareness raising site, a business, diary or even all this mixed together

    I am of the opinion that everyone in the world must start blog (most probably wont be able to handle it hahaha) so they can experience first hand what the blogging world is like and learn to truly appreciate the work that goes into pressing that publish button, one has to be a writer, editor, content manager, graphic designer and on top of all that Social Media Marketer only for someone to not read your content because its too long, imagine; no wonder thousands of blogs lay idle and neglected ha!
    Also this is why you will find that your best and most interactions will come from other bloggers because they get it every time you press that publish button its like sharing a naked selfie of you soul…
    My blogging journey has evolved from simply something I did for fun to a place where I can interface with the world around me and also capture the history unfolding before me…
    Immortalising my thoughts

    • Elle

      Literally exclaimed, “amazing!” 😂 best comment ever. I don’t know if I’m too stoned but when I read it felt like your words are so powerful, and you meant it like blogging is very much important to you, personally. For you blogging had evolved into a deeper meaning of sharing something to the world that would be remembered as time goes by, like a legacy, ultimately, immortalising your thoughts. Thanks for your thoughts, B. As always, I’m grateful you dropped by. 💕

  • Lomash Kumar

    So many things, I can relate with. Blogging isn’t a short term game, it take time to give you an appropriate result. You have to be consistent without thinking about other peoples. So many things which you learn along with blogging. Thanks for sharing this post, it’s very inspiring.

  • Not-So-Modern-Girl

    I was thinking of posting a similar post to this in the next month or so, and it’s great to read your thoughts 🙂 I love meeting new people and I’ve definitely learned that you can find blogger friends easily, I agree. Thanks for sharing

  • Shelly DS

    Great post Elle! I remember reading your collab with Pooja and finding it so relatable. I love your blog and content, so even if your family doesn’t read it, you have a blogging family over here!!

    • Elle

      Ohhhh, that’s so sweet, I feel the love Shelly! 🥰 Thanks for dropping by. Here’s to building connections with the blogging community. Cheers! 💕

  • Holly

    Elle, I love this collaborative post with Pooja! You ladies are inspiring others to press through, even during the tough moments of blogging. (Which there will be plenty!)

    I think numbers are a big stressor for many bloggers, especially if you are writing to build a business. It’s important to remember, though, that success comes with time. The more we know, the more we grow. If we skip all the way to success without the learning process – we won’t be ready for what comes! And with blogging, there is *always* something to learn. I loved what you said about, “I know nothing!” Ha ha, we relate!

    I’m also glad you mentioned about not having family or friend support. So many, including myself, have faced this. Most people don’t ‘get it.’ Most people also have zero clue how much WORK goes in to each post and the follow-ups for it.

    It’s as you said, you only get back from this what you put in. When we make others feel loved, appreciated, and heard, we receive that love back. It is truly touching how many new, great friends we meet along the way.

    Thanks for sharing this, Elle! It’s a gem! 😘

    • Elle

      Oh, such wonderful thoughts to ponder! Your comment is much of a gem as this post, I agree with you, success really comes with time, and growth is a life long process bloggers always crave for. And yes, we really look forward to meeting new and awesome people (like you) along our blogging journey. Thank you for this wonderful comment, have a great week ahead, Holly! <3 xo

  • Lindsey

    Great post! It’s really hard to explain how much effort blogging is and how it’s a never ending game – you don’t just do a few hours and that’s it, you can have the rest of the week off. It’s never ending! This was really insightful.

    • Elle

      I agree with you! A never-ending process of learning and effort, but it’s so much worth it. <3 Thanks for sharing your thoughts, Lindsey. xo

  • mindbeautysimplicity

    So true! As a new blogger I’m still learning each and everyday. I try not to focus on the number of followers even though it’s nice to see. I love the blogging community and the support that goes along with it

  • Holly

    Please forgive me if I am commenting twice? I could’ve sworn that I already wrote a reply! 😉 So sorry if I have!

    Elle, I love this collaboration post! You and Pooja did an amazing job pulling together all of the most meaningful reasons why blogging is still worth it in 2020!

    One of my favorite parts was how you mentioned not having supportive family and friends. You’re right! Most people don’t have a clue what goes in to each and every blog post. Like you said, the blogging community is a God-send because they DO understand. We can support one another from a place of empathy and excitement for one another’s successes. That’s why I believe we’re all better together!

    Blogging is very personal, even when it is done for business purposes. Our words, as you said perfectly, matter. Everything we’ve been through, have learned, and love matters! We may not be everyone’s cup of tea and that’s okay! As long as we continue to share our true selves and stories – we will always have a group of online friends who love us for WHO we are! 😊

    Many blessings to you & yours! Thank you for inspiring us bloggers to keep pushing through the tough times (which will happen!)

  • Clarissa

    Love this Elle! I have learned a ton about blogging in a short time and still know I have a long way to go, but I really am enjoying it. It’s even pretty fun to learn the new stuff. I definitely agree that a lot of people don’t understand blogging, and that you can make lots of friends all over the world if you really focus on building relationships rather than just taking. Thanks for this!

    • Elle

      Thank you, Clarissa! So glad you liked and relate to this post. 🙂 I agree connecting with bloggers around the world has been the highlight of my blogging career and I look forward to growing with them. <3 xo

  • Felicia

    So much truth in here.
    The not all read and support always slaps me but it’s just a fact of life.
    And it’s always important to remember numbers don’t matter. We get to wrapped up in it for sure!

  • clairelomax2018

    I was nodding and agreeing with everyone of these points. I love blogging, it is hardwork but so rewarding.

    It has opened my world up to so so much. Wonderfully kind and supportive people that I would love to meet in real life and I have learnt so much about the world and also about myself x

  • Johana

    I like how you mentioned that you know nothing. For me personally, this fits because I feel like I learn something new every day when it comes to blogging.

  • Alexis Farmer

    This was such a wonderful read! 🖤 I’ve only been blogging about 5.5 months and it’s been an awesome journey. I’ve definitely gotten discouraged and had trouble keeping up at times. People definitely don’t realize how much work it is, but sooo worth it!

  • Ming Qian

    Hey Elle, I was honestly nodding my way through the entire blog post. I can feel your passion for blogging, and it is hugely encouraging. Before I got into blogging, I never spent much time reading blogs, if at all. Now, I am making time to read what other people have to say beyond the mainstream news media that I consume. It is very refreshing, and I love interacting with online content and blog posts. Thanks for sharing these takeaways, and I agree one hundred per cent with everything you said here as well. Have a lovely week ahead! 🙂

    • Elle

      Hi, Ming! Thank you so much for finding this post relevant to you too. Yes, reading other posts is one of my fave thing that’s on the list. Blogging taught me how to give importance to what other people say too. I’m so glad you enjoyed reading this post. I hope you have a great weekend too! xo

  • Sarah Tucker

    Great blog, I completely agree. Especially with the relationships. I have only been blogging for 10 days but the comments and interactions on my page have brought me to tears more than once. I’m so grateful my stories are having an impact. Thank you for this guideline, I’ll be coming back to it!

  • SecondSource

    Elle, excellent blog post and I totally agree with you on all points you have mentioned in the article.

    I have learned a lot of new things after I started blogging and I never know I can write before I start this.

    Good read 🙂 🙂

    • Elle

      This is great, Suresh! I’m glad you found writing as a part of who you are. It’s always great to discover new things that make us feel great and happy. You keep writing, you’re very good at it! 🙂 xx

  • Jameela

    Wow I really love this post! You are so right about the connecting with others piece that is so true! And the part about you know nothing is absolutely facts! I have to teach myself every single day.

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